Lately I've been thinking about my career. And no not my current career as a stay-at-home Mom. I know some people don't think that a stay-at-home Mom does a lot but that is another topic, a hot one at that.
I've been thinking about the career I gave up so that my husband could pursue his career dreams. My consolation prize was staying home and starting a family. Something I would NEVER give up. Don't get me wrong, being home with kids 24/7 can get on your nerves sometimes and if I didn't say that I wouldn't be human. My kids are bad, my son is cheeky, my daughter makes a huge mess just about everywhere she goes. But I love my job as a SAHM.
But I also miss my career as a legal secretary. A career I worked hard at and in the 6 years that I did it got good at. I started working in the criminal/family law section. I tried real estate but early on my attention to detail wasn't that good and the thought of playing around with hundreds of thousands of dollars sometimes really scared me. At the end I was working strictly in family law and loved it. About 6 months before I left the whole QB Family Law Division changed. The rules for filing documents and a lot of our documents. I had to re-enter all of them into my system and learn them all again, kinda. Yep, I had some bounce. Run back to the office, change them, run back to the Court house and file again. Only happened a couple times and I learned for next time.
So my whole point you wonder? I wonder if I'll ever be able to go back to it. In the 6+ years I've been off, what's changed with the rules, the filings, the documents. UGH! I could take a new file and start some of the documents myself, Petition for Divorce, Notice of Motion, start an Affidavit, do the Financial Statement. Could I do that now? Or will I be looking for another career? Should I be thinking about going back to school? Should I just settle for a local job that might not have as many requirements on me because ya, I still want to be there to do what I need to do for my kids, be home before and after school, go on trips when I can. I don't want to miss hockey & soccer. Wow, to much to think about, I think I'll sign off and go fold laundry.
life is a great big gamble, you have to do what you can do to survive, if you are not happy those around you will have a hard time being happy, you have to be first to make this happen. do what your heart or brain tells you and you will be fine. good luck
ReplyDeleteI have tossed this around in my head many times too, and it's something I cringe at, honestly. Nobody can tell you what to do but I guess you have to find the best option that's going to work for you and your family. Sometimes I hate my days at home, but other days I'm glad I'm not at work! LOL Good luck with your decision. :)
ReplyDeleteWell, I won't be doing anything until Makenna is in grade 1. Till then I'm staying put. So I have some time to decide whether I want a career or just a job.
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